I have a five year old little brother, and he is full of
life, adventure, and much more. I
actually remember a time when my little brother was hanging out with me and we
were out and about doing some shopping.
We all know that kids notice everything and pay attention to some things
more than adults do. My brother noticed many different people while we were out
and about and he did not say anything about what he considered “different” to
him until he seen a man that he considered “fat”, and he said, “What that fat
man doing in the kid’s store?” I
immediately had to correct him, and told him to be quiet, because he was rather
loud when he made his statement. After
he said what he said, I got down on one knee so that I was eye level with him,
and I told him that it was not nice to speak that way about no one, regardless
if they are different from how he and I look.
I had to explain to him that people are allowed to be different and it does
not make them a bad person just because they are different. At the present
moment when I made my statement, the looks on his face let me know that he felt
like he had done something wrong and that he felt remorse for what he had
done. The messages that he may have
gotten were to not say hurtful comments about people and that it is acceptable
for people to be different from his appearance.
From an anti-bias educator’s perspective, may have gone a little
smoother. The educator may have asked
the child to explain why he feels the way he does and does it benefit him or
the person he was talking about in any way?
The educator may have also expressed the importance of respecting each
individual for who they are as a person and not based upon what they look like.
Talisha, sounds like you did pretty well explaining to your brother (under the circumstances) about differences. Good quick thinking! Thank you for sharing your experience.
ReplyDeleteI think you did a great job in using this experience as a learning opportunity and letting him know that he said something hurtful and that he does need to be careful about what he says about other people. I especially liked the fact that you bent down on one knee and got down to his level so he knew that you were not trying to over power him, simply just letting him know that he had hurt someones feelings and that he needs to be aware of what he says about other people. Great job!
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